Sometimes it seems that it is much easier to make important decisions in life when big emotions are involved. Keep that in mind when you start out dating Chinese woman online.
That involves a lot of communication over the internet – there are the emails, video chats, audio chats and so forth. People meet face to face only a couple of times and that makes it easy to get caught in those rare special moments. Let’s assume that you have been online chatting to this particular woman for six months now and you have made plans to finally get together in person. You may have gotten a feeling out of all the talks you have had that that day would be perfect for popping the question to your Chinese online date. Before you do any of that, consider the following:
1. Meet Up More
Even if you have been chatting for hundreds of hours online it is no substitute for face to face quality time. It is understandable that one can’t always see straight when there are deep feelings involved but it is important to stay realistic. Spend more time together. The advantages of this are obvious: you will have an understanding if she is all you imagined her to be and if your communication still works.
2. Where in the Relationship are You?
Do you both see this relationship going somewhere? Do you feel as if you are dating exclusively? These questions are important at this point since you are considering asking the big question. You both need to see eye to eye before making such a huge decision. All relationships must be tested to see if it can last through the difficult times.
3. Cultural Differences
Are you ready to celebrate new holidays, learn the history of a new culture and accept new customs? Cultural differences have broken up a lot of couples because they think that love is the only thing that matters. In reality though, being flexible and open to bringing something so new into your every day life is vital. Spending more time together before getting married shows how good your coping skills are.
4. The Truth
Have you been completely honest with each other? It often happens that people make themselves out to be a bit more than what they really are when they date online – they forget that there will be a time when all that information is tested. If you haven’t been a 100% honest then get ready for confessing and maybe hearing some confessions as well.
5. Visa Problems
Have you done enough research in this area? Is she visiting you or are you visiting her? Can you both get visas if need be? There are many rules around getting a visa to China or to the States so it is vital to know what those are.
Think Before You Act
Marrying someone you have met and dated online is not to be rushed. Take some time out prior to taking this on. Meet face to face and go out on several dates with your Chinese online date and truly get to know who she is before making such a huge decision.