My boyfriend lives 1,500 miles away and won’t move to be near me. I won’t move to be near him. Can we go on like this? Annalisa Barbieri advises a reader
My boyfriend and I have been together for more than five years and met while I was working abroad. Ever since then we have been in a long-distance relationship and live 1,500 miles apart. I am self-employed and am often sent to work in the country where he lives. He comes over regularly so we see each other every five to 10 days or so, which until now has suited us very well.
However, recently I have started to question this set-up. On the surface it seems we have the perfect relationship – we are never bored with each other, and count down the days before we can be together again. We have our own space and plenty of time to devote to the activities we enjoy. Yet I am constantly faced with questions from well-meaning friends and family about how sustainable our relationship is and maybe that has planted seeds of doubt in my mind. This, coupled with the fact that I often do miss my partner and think about the things we would enjoy as a couple if we lived together, make me wonder whether the relationship is viable.
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