Should I abandon my boyfriend and follow my sister abroad?

I love my boyfriend but my sister means everything to me, and I want to keep our close relationship alive. But somebody is going to be disappointed …

Four years ago, my sister started a PhD in the Netherlands. We used to do everything together, and since she left I feel as if something is missing in my life. I’m considering applying for a master’s in a city close to where she lives. Nevertheless, the idea of leaving Italy, where I currently am, scares me because, for the first time in my life, I’m in love and in a stable relationship. My boyfriend is younger than me and he’s not ready to follow me. I’m thrilled by the idea of an experience abroad that will help me grow both personally and professionally, but I’m afraid of losing someone important. I love them both but I know I’ll disappoint one of them whatever I decide to do.

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