We were planning the next stage in our lives together when he was seeing another woman. He wants us to get back together, but my heart has turned to stone
My partner of five years recently had a short affair with another woman. It came when we were very happy together and planning a new phase in our lives. I found it devastating. I moved out and ended our relationship when I discovered it. He wants to reconcile. He says he is frightened of happiness and that it was a deliberately destructive act that he deeply regrets. He says he will seek professional help and has apologised in a heartfelt way. I loved him deeply and wish I could recover my feelings, but I can’t forgive him or trust him. How can I get over this? I want to love him again, but my heart is stone.
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