I discovered the films, which were made without my consent, by accident. We’ve only been together for six months and I’m very confused
I am 25 and I have been dating my 35-year-old boyfriend for six months. I recently discovered, when I was on his computer, a folder of six videos of me naked made, without my consent, on his iPhone. One of me getting changed in the morning, me in the shower and others of me lying in bed asleep. I am shocked: he is so kind, respectful and seemingly normal, there have been no red flags or strange behaviour. In fact, it has been the best relationship I have ever been in. I don’t believe he intends to upload these videos, but I find it very worrying that he did not ask me and clearly indulges in voyeuristic behaviour. I am very confused about what to do.
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