I value our friendship but it worries me that I can’t be honest with him because of our history
I am a woman in my mid-20s and my best friend is a straight man. In the past, he has expressed a romantic attraction to me and I’ve turned him down (on three occasions over four years). The final time was quite blunt; I said I was not attracted to him and that wasn’t going to change. Recently, I have been going to gay bars alone, and talking to women online, and I think I may be gay. I feel I can’t talk to him about it because of our history. I value our friendship and don’t want things to change, but it worries me that I feel I can’t be honest with him. Are my feelings more important in this situation?
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